After a long day of typing on our exam papers me and a friend went to a park to lay in the grass for a while. Lets call my friend tinygirl86 since she is so tiny.
Me: I have met a lot of people with issues lately, with the classic story of bad childhoods. I was surprised how the girls and boys handled their issues. The boys were open and reflective and honest about their feelings and vulnerability while the girls were very self defensive and in social circumstances often very loud and vulgar. They seem less balanced than the guys.
tinygirl86: Its because its not legitimate for girls to show their feelings. Its true! We are tying so hard to get away from the traditional woman, for a girl to show her feelings is weakness, for a guy it’s a sign of strength. And its easier for guys to open themselves to women because they get credit for it and positive feedback, while women is just seen as whining.
Me: Maybe its because we unconsciously feel that showing emotional vulnerability is negative because it’s a “female property” too cry and therefore we think its negative and avoid it? Especially Alfa-women, who are looked on by their environment as strong. THAT is twisted.
4 houres of interview the morning after we had a work night with 3 hours of sleep turned out not bad:)
I realize as I'm writing this that this blog has become very personal to me and I was wondering for some time if I should change the title to Third Wave FeminiST instead of Feminism since Im obviously sharing my own personal point of view. After some thinkering I came to the conclusion that nothing is ever objective. Just think about it. All academic research which we base our moral belief systm on are usually written by one author. Not even science is objective since the scientist is the most important tool in the research. Whats great about blogs is that the opinions who are shared under one subject are subjective the - honest form of communication. As well as it gives the readers the opportunity to protest by engaging in a discussion.
SMITH: I used to drink like 14 cups a day. I was a pretty speedy person, but I never noticed. Then, when I was pregnant, I had to give up coffee. After that, I cut down to five or six cups. Ever since I hit 60, I drink only two. What I do is I get an Americano and a pot of water and I keep diluting it, because it’s not even the coffee, it’s the habit.
BOLLEN: That’s my problem. I really don’t smoke cigarettes that much except when I write. But when I write, I smoke. It’s bad, but I’m scared that if I break the habit, I won’t be able to write.
SMITH: It’s part of your process. It’s what you have to do. I’ll tell you how to break it. You don’t have to. Like, coffee was part of my process. Now, if I want to go to a café and write and drink coffee for two hours, I just order them. I don’t drink them. A lot is just aesthetic. So you light your cigarette and let it sit there and don’t smoke it.
BOLLEN: Do you think that would work?
SMITH: If you attach anything harmful to the creative process, you have to do that. If you learn nothing else from me, this is a really important lesson. I’ve seen a lot of people go down because they attach a substance to their creative process. A lot of it is purely habitual. They don’t need it, but they think they do, so it becomes entrenched. Like, I can’t go without my coffee. I can go without drinking it, but I can’t go without it nearby. It’s the feeling of how cool I feel with my coffee. Because I don’t feel cool with this tea. [Bollen laughs]
You know, there are pictures of me with cigarettes in the ’70s, and everybody thought I smoked. I can’t smoke because I had TB when I was a kid. But I loved the look of smoking—like Bette Davis and Jeanne Moreau. So I would have cigarettes and just light ’em and take a couple puffs, but mostly hold them. Some people said that was hypocritical. But in my world, it wasn’t hypocritical at all. I wasn’t interested in actually smoking them. I just liked holding them to look cool. All right, was it a bad image to show people? I’m happy to let people know I wasn’t really smoking.
source: interview magazine
Today I did a shoot that was inspired by Grace jones. Pretty big shoes to fill, but it was fun. I had rasta braided hair, and a badass attitude haha. They featured clothes from Acne and my own Flinga and plenty other scandinavian designs (Ill post pics after its published). Photographer was Einar Elton and Stylist was the amazing Maya Vik - bassist from Monte.
